tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18064486.post5084437850598261382..comments2019-10-29T04:37:04.013-04:00Comments on A Soprano Steps Out: Tuesday: my 1001st postUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18064486.post-36389146760324661742011-08-11T12:14:03.121-04:002011-08-11T12:14:03.121-04:00wow, you really thought this out :)
All great poi...wow, you really thought this out :)<br /><br />All great points. As you know I've had similar experiences. Thought I'd share something I just learned, tried and found effective. The key is to turn a comment into useful information.<br /><br />Keep in mind that many look at us and don't realize how much humility it takes to approach this art. They think "oh, so you think you're a fancy opera singer". So the way to neutralize this is to ask "why". Assume the commenter is being helpful even if you know otherwise. Ask if they can expand on it and help you understand what in specific they didn't like because their feedback will help you improve.<br /><br />This seems to be more often than not very effective. At it's worst it gets an embarrassed admission of "I was just kidding around" type of thing. At best it gets the commenter to actually give you real information you can use. In both instances it lets the other person know you are genuine and have the humility to take constructive feedback. Either way it will often cause the person to come to you from a different more constructive more sensitive approach the next time they have something to say. <br /><br />Lets face it, there will always be that idiot that doesn't care. But I believe that 8 or 9 out of 10 people aren't idiots and it just didn't occur to them that their comment could be hurtful. Trust me, it's worth a try :)<br /><br />Thanks again for the post, this is my fav of the day, probably even the week of everything I've read online and off.Mendel Markel, www.classicalvocals.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01649546996336151818noreply@blogger.com